Debates about equality seem very popular today. Be it regarding gender, skin color, disabled people or whatever comes to your mind. Let’s face it:
Equality is a distant dream!
Shouldn’t equality come naturally? Shouldn’t everyone treat each other the same? What do I care where you come from, what you look like or if you visit a doctor once a week because of your depression? That’s right: I don’t care! We’re all the same. We’ve all got the same bone structure (more or less), same amount of organs and blood vessels. We all have the same needs: Food, water, air, freedom to do what we think is right… We all want happiness. We all want the people dear to us to be healthy and lead a good life. We all want MORE in life. We try to reach for the stars. We strive to make the person – we love most – smile, to see the happy sparkling in their eyes, to hear their laugh. Because then our heart doesn’t feel so heavy anymore and we forget our own worries. We all were born from mothers who love us unconditionally. Or at least should.
Why do we need people and organizations to fight for this universal right of equality? Why make even a distinction between people? The moment we have to think about the way we treat others so we treat them all equally, that is the moment we lost our “fight” for equality.
When a woman is fired society screams: “Sexism! She was fired because she’s female!” When a
black colored boy is shot by someone there is public outrage because everyone is convinced he was shot because of his skin color. (By the way: A question to all colored people (please note that the proofreader wants to correct to “people with African descend”): Do you really feel insulted when someone calls you “black”?) When there is no ramp for people in wheelchairs the city/town/neighborhood is called discriminatory.
Maybe she is just a lousy worker. Maybe he did something wrong. Maybe it worked without the ramp for centuries. If a man is fired nobody cares. If a white boy is shot nobody who isn’t somehow related or involved cares. Shouldn’t every death be treated equally? Regardless of gender or skin color?
It’s like we search for something to be outraged by.
Stop separating humans. Stop putting them in different boxes. Stop telling us when to feel insulted.
Everyone is the same and should be treated so! We should threat everyone the way we want to be treated ourselves.
But we’re not entirely to blame for this debacle. It’s the media, the school and society in general that exaggerates and tells us: That person is … and should be treated accordingly so he/she feels equal to others. Young children who have not been influenced by others should be our examples. They don’t know that for society there is a difference between certain people and others. For them everyone (except the parents, because mommy and daddy are obviously the best) is the same.
I once read or dreamed (not sure about that) a short story about a young girl (I think she was four) who went to kindergarten for the first time. It was written from her perspective and went as follows:
She was introduced by the woman with the “pretty hair” (the kindergarten teacher) to the other children. She made friends with two other girls and they played together. Then a boy came to them and out of the blue said: “You’re ugly!” The little girl thought and thought and asked herself what “ugly” meant. And then she remembered her aunt saying to her cousin (the aunt’s son) who had just said the same to someone else: “Apologize! That was not nice!” Remembering that she now knew that being called ugly was “not nice” and thus started to feel upset and cried.
With this story I just want to say: It’s not the words that are hurtful. Without being taught that these words are bad they would just be words. Perfectly normal. Words that were once normal have turned sexist/racist. They are just words. The only thing that maybe hurts is the intention behind them. Without intent a word is just that. A word.
The same with anything one may do. Without the intent to be hurtful it is just an action.
I may not be able to put my opinion into words that well – and for that I’ll just apologize in advance in case I may have hurt someone – but to me my opinion is important enough to share with whomever it interests and I’ll just end this with:
We are all humans. Act like it!